8 Common Signs of Verbal Abuse (and How to Stay Healthy and Sane)

8 Common Signs of Verbal Abuse (and How to Stay Healthy and Sane) There are different forms of abuse that you may experience. Some are easily evident like in the case of physical abuse while others are not.One of the hardest to recognize is verbal abuse. You may suffer for a long time before realizing that something is wrong. Due to this, you may end up staying in an abusive environment despite the dangers involved.It is important to realize that abuse can happen to both genders. Although it is more common for women to be victims, men also suffer abuse.Verbal abuse is like a calculated evil. Although physical abuse may harm your body, verbal abuse goes after your mind. Ultimately, if not stopped, it may cause anxiety.In targeting your mind, verbal abuse erodes your self-image. This makes you lose faith in your own natural abilities and sense of self-worth. As a result, your self-esteem and self-confidence get damaged.Without self-worth, you easily believe what the abuser says about you. This makes you more vulnerable as he now controls your thought s and consequently, your life.The overall goal of every abuser is to have control. Generally, people who are obsessed with controlling others have insecurities which they seek to cover up.The reasoning behind their actions? As long as they are in control of the situation, everything would be just fine.WORDS AND PHRASES ASSOCIATED WITH VERBAL ABUSESince verbal abuse involves the use of words, it will be good to look at some of the words used by abusers.“You’re behaving like a child.” This is one of the most common. It can also come in the form of “You’re so childish,” or “You’re so immature,” or anything similar. The intention is to stop you from expressing your opinion. This way, you won’t have any influence over the decision about to be made.“That’s a stupid idea.” A common way of putting you down is by simply disapproving your opinions. Whenever your opinions don’t count, you have little input in whatever happens. This gives the abuser the upper hand. It also enables him make the decisions which are right for him.“I never said that.” When an abuser says something and you later confront him, he is very likely to deny it. This is a very natural response for him and you may even wonder why he never admits any wrong. What is happening is that he is playing mind games with you. He is seeking to confuse you. If successful, he will later propose to you that you do not have a stable mind.“I was just joking.” This comes when you show that what he said hurt you. This will most likely come if you confront him immediately he says something hurtful. Since he cannot deny this because it is fresh in the memory, he will quickly turn it around and claim it was just a joke. Another way he may respond to you is by claiming that you don’t have a sense of humor.“You’re too sensitive.” If you make it known often enough that your abuser’s words or actions are hurting you, this is the response you may get. He is indirectly acknowle dging hurting you but doesn’t commit to changing his behavior. He is not even remorseful.At this point, he is becoming impatient with you as he notices that you are picking on his wrong habits too much. In a desperate effort to silence you, he tells you that you are too sensitive. In other words, he is telling you that you are worrying too much over nothing.Remember that throughout this time, you are slowly losing your sense of self-worth. Because of that, you are trying to earn it by pleasing him. For you to do so, your abuser is telling you that you should reduce your sensitivity and stop pointing out his wrongs.Verbal abuse is always growing and the ultimate goal is complete control. Since it is not physically forceful, it works through manipulation. It often hides under the guise of correcting you so as to make you better.It is necessary to note that victims of verbal abuse are usually those whose self-esteem and self-confidence are low. As such, they tend to look for approval from others.So, if you want to understand how you became a victim of verbal abuse, check on your confidence levels.Whenever you’re seeking approval, you have to abide by the rules set by the one to approve of you. Since the abuser knows you’re willing to make changes, he pushes you until he has complete control over you.COMMON SIGNS OF VERBAL ABUSEThere are some common signs you can look out for. Below are eight which you can use to recognize an abuser. This will help you avoid becoming a victim if you’re not one.If you’re not sure whether what you are experiencing is abuse, then these will help you confirm. If you are being verbally abused, you will identify with all or most of the below signs. We will later look at how to stay safe if experiencing abuse.Yelling and name callingAbusers will frequently yell at you when they get upset. They will blow things out of proportion to justify the yelling. If they don’t have a solid reason, they will justify it by claiming that yo u did something stupid.Anytime yelling is used on you, you will naturally be silenced. This is what the abuser wants to see happen. When he adds his justification, you see the reason for the yelling and you are likely to accept it.Abusers will also call you names as a means of reinforcing what they are saying about you. They may for example call you stupid, unworthy, good-for-nothing, slow, lazy etc. In some cases, they may also attack you on the basis of your body or character. For example, an abuser may call you fat or skinny, in order to draw attention to your physical looks. The whole idea is to make you feel not attractive enough.Whenever there is an opportunity, they will tell you that your body is not as it should be. If it happens that you have previously tried to have a “better-looking body,” such comments will quickly destroy your self-esteem.With your self-esteem gradually getting destroyed, you will become more unsure about what should be done and the abuser will pic k on these. The situation will therefore only get worse.Blaming and playing victimAbusers are very good at blame-shifting. It’s as though they’ve been gifted in it.Whenever you raise an issue that shows they did something wrong, they will quickly shift the blame to you. They will show how their actions were necessitated by your own actions or words.He does this to ensure he remains on top of things, otherwise he would not be in control.Blaming you for his actions also helps the abuser look perfect. He strives to be seen as always being right. If he is right, then he can justify whatever actions he takes.To go with this habit of blaming, an abuser will never show abusive tendencies to outsiders. He will always be known as someone who is good. Because he has many allies, it becomes difficult to win any argument you may raise against him.Depending on the kind of conflict you may be having, he may even play victim so as to further show his innocence. Lies are also common during blam ing and playing victim.Shaming and criticizingVerbal abuse always includes shaming and criticizing you. This is because your abuser does not really care much about you as he does about himself. If you have been keen, you may have noticed high levels of selfishness.At the same time, shaming is used by the abuser to silence you and take you further down.If the abuser is a narcissist or sociopath, then this can be worse. Such people can even enjoy hurting you.To make things worse, the shaming and criticizing can also happen in public. Since you cannot normally expect the abuser to do this, he will do it and watch you struggle to counter him.As someone who is looking to have control over you and your life, it is a joy for him to see you experience pain. He knows that once you experience pain, you will want to avoid it next time. And the only way to avoid it is by agreeing with him on everything.He will make harsh criticisms to further get you to recognize his perceived abilities. He wil l be looking for ways of using these abilities so that he controls everything.For example, he may want to control your finances. To achieve this, he will criticize your spending habits and even insult you in the process. He will tell you that your priorities are wrong and you do not know how to budget.Soon enough, you will not be sure of what to buy and what not to. Not because you don’t know what is best, but because you don’t want the abuser to become angry. You may as well start asking him for permission to buy what you need.When you are criticized enough times, the psychological effects will start becoming evident. One clear effect is that you will become very fearful. With fear taking root, you become easy to control.Use of abusive jokesAbusers are usually insensitive towards their victims and demean them any time they have the opportunity. Although this happens throughout the duration of the relationship, the intensity increases when they think you are attempting to break free from their grip.From his bag of tricks, he will use a tactic which will easily cover his abuse with what he knows can be taken as normal. One of the ways he does that is through telling hurtful jokes.He will say something that hurts you but act as though it was nothing. If you showed him that his words hurt you, he would quickly respond by claiming it was a joke.Of course you know it wasn’t, at least going by the pattern of insensitivity you have experienced from him. This is just a way of him covering a wrong without acknowledging it. It is also at this point that he might make a remark about your lack of a sense of humor.These jokes are designed to make you feel less valuable. Although you may assume they don’t have a big impact, they really do. Whatever is said gets registered in your mind and you start processing it.Your mind works on the information trying to compare it with known facts to find out whether there is any truth in it. As this goes on unchecked, your mind slowly starts seeing the possibility of truth in what has been said. Even pure lies, repeated often enough, get believed to be truth.The abuser’s comment on your apparent lack of a sense of humor also has another effect.Since “normal” people have a sense of humor, the abuser is actually implying that you are not normal. This is part of the psychological abuse intended to weigh you down for him to gain control over you.Dismissing or trivializing your feelingsIf any time you voice your feelings they get dismissed or trivialized, then you can be sure that you’re dealing with an abuser. Someone who is abusing you doesn’t care about your feelings.This happens because the abuser does not want to consider your feelings. He knows if he does, he will be opening a door for you to have influence. According to him, he is the one to have all the influence.When it comes to dismissing your feelings, the abuser will start small then progress gradually. For example, if you tell him that he did something which hurt you, he may respond with “How can you feel hurt by such a small comment?”In some instances, he may not really focus on your feelings but respond with the focus being on his own feelings. For example, in responding to your feeling hurt, he may say “I was just expressing what I feel.” This is in complete disregard of the feelings you have expressed.Doing this is a way of him telling you that he expects you to understand and respechis feelings. However, your own feelings are not much of a consideration because they don’t have much weight.No control and manipulation tactic will be used in isolation. At the same time, your abuser will be progressing from “light” comments to harsh ones. From bad to worse.As a result, by the time he is dismissing your feelings, he has probably shamed and criticized you in public. Together with blaming and name calling, you will very likely be starting to believe that you are raising trivial matters.Use of threats to intimidateThreats are just one of the arrows in the quiver of every abuser. These will especially be used by the abuser when he starts noticing or sensing rebellion from you. When using threats, the abuser will not go for the biggest. He will start by using the fears he knows you have. A common threat is to make public some of the things he knows about your personal life.Abusers are normally good at digging for information. And although they also give you information about themselves, it is usually to get you hooked. Just to cause you to believe that everything is normal.The abuser will be very keen on capturing details of your personal life. They know there will come a time to use it and so they get as much information as possible.When they mention that they will expose what you did, you will first of all be shocked. You may express the shock and maybe even ask them why they would do that. On their side, they may only give a response that implies you are not treating them well.What he will be telling you is that you have wronged him and because he is defenseless, that is what he will use against you. Remember that abusers are good at playing victim. Having fallen for many of his tricks, you probably have been silenced using this one too.The result is that you will unwillingly agree to do what he wants. And just to prove that he is not a bad person, he may show you a kind gesture and tell you something like “You are the one who makes me get angry yet I never want to,” or “If only you can stop doing what you do.”As with all other tactics, manipulation lies behind every word and action that comes from an abuser.Another threat he may use is that of breaking the relationship or ending the marriage. Since your self-esteem is badly wounded and you know that you will be the one to be blamed, you will want to avoid such a situation.Avoiding discussion on how he treats youAs much as he may deny any knowledge of hurting you and blame you for what he does, deep w ithin, the abuser knows that he is not treating you well. The problem is that he can never admit it.One way however which he covers for this is by justifying it with your conduct. He is convinced, or convinces himself, that you deserve to be treated that way.This is the mindset of an abuser: He should be treated exceptionally well, then he can decide how well to treat you. He will show you that he is capable of treating you well but will only do it after you treat him as he deserves.Since he knows there is a possibility of being discovered, one way he saves his skin is by avoiding any discussion about how he’s treating you.You may have noticed that having a rational discussion with an abuser is very difficult. Actually impossible. Well, it may help you to know that it’s not because he is not good with communication. Or lacks the capacity to reason.Partly to blame is their use of warped logic to understand and explain things. Underlying this however, and also the bigger reason, i s the abuser’s fear of being exposed.Since the abuser needs to be perfect, he will do all things possible to maintain the necessary facade. Since he knows a discussion about his conduct is a potential danger, he will avoid it.In case he can’t, then he will utilize warped logic so as to confuse you. In fact, if you engaged a third party who is not experienced with abusers, he will also fall for this trick. This will be used together with other tactics to prove that you are the one on the wrong.You doubt your judgmentThis is one of the worst things that can happen and comes in at the intermediate or advanced level of abuse.All the words the abuser speaks to you are intended to show you how they are the right person to offer you guidance and direction in life. They will show you how beneficial they will be to you. This however naturally happens in insidious ways because the real intentions are not for good.Starting with the name calling, shaming and blaming, the process flows towar ds proving to you that you need their help. And this is the help they are giving you yet you are not cooperating with them.It is not uncommon for the abuser to tell you that he is doing you a favor by being in a relationship with you. Having “proven” to you severally that you don’t make good decisions, you now get to doubt your own abilities to make the right choices.This can be as bad as making you doubt your own reality. Since they never admit any wrong, they may have denied saying something you know they said. But the gradual assault can make you start believing that they never said it. This is what is referred to as gaslighting.This happens because their manipulative ways have worked on your mind and emotions and now you’ve been left confused. You may start thinking that you’re crazy. And considering that the abuser knows exactly what is going on, he may even tell you that indeed you are.Your mind will not be able to even remember things very well. This is because it h as been consistently attacked and doubts have been cast upon it’s ability to function well.This literally renders you completely unproductive and if you’re working or running a business, this is the time you will likely lose the job or close down the business.STAYING HEALTHY AND SANELike any other form of abuse, verbal abuse can have very negative effects on you as a victim. Primarily, you will be affected in three main ways:1. Psychologically â€" this is the main target of the abuse. Your sense of worth as a person is what enables you to live confidently. You know that you are valuable, not necessarily because of any material wealth but who you are as a person.When the psychological attack starts, your own identity is targeted for destruction. With an identity crisis, you seek to have approval from the abuser. But since he does not have your interests at heart, he instead sends you down a path of destruction.Although everyone desires a good life, an abuser’s definition of a g ood life is whereby he is in control of everything. Since controlling you eventually destroys you, he will never have much to gain from you. This means he will never get satisfaction from being with you.2. Emotionally â€" emotions are a normal part of all humans. In a relationship setup, emotions need to be handled well so that both parties feel valued.When dealing with an abuser however, your emotions get trampled upon. They are never valued and when you express them, you get disapproving responses. According to the abuser, you should simply have no emotions or feelings which contradict what he feels.When you don’t express your emotions, they pile inside you and become a ticking time bomb. Since a relationship with an abuser ends up separating you from people, you will have no way of relieving the emotional pressure.3. Bodily â€" effects on your body will mainly come as a result of stress. Your health will suffer and diseases will become more common. Unfortunately, you might expe rience neglect at the hand of an abuser at this point as they accuse you of not taking care of yourself.With a decline in health, you may soon become unattractive and experience more negative treatment from him.So, what can you do to stay healthy and safe? If you are a victim of verbal abuse, follow the below steps and you will have a better life.Remember that your life is worth more than anything else.And when you are attached to someone who does not value you as you are, then you should consider what it could lead to.Below are the steps you can take to maintain your health and sanity.Let the abuser know you’re hurtingThis is very important, especially because abusers seek to silence you. An abuser will want to control you without you opposing his moves. He wants to turn you into a puppet.When you start speaking up, the abuser will try to silence you through various means. It is common for an abuser to deny you the opportunity to raise your concerns. He will do this by interjecti ng when you are speaking to him about his behavior.Despite this, you need to speak. As the below video shows, bottling up your emotions is not advisable. He may also use blame-shifting so as to avoid taking any responsibility. If not that, he can also attempt yelling and name calling so as to stop you from talking. The sole intention is to silence you. As long as he is the one talking, he has control and so he’ll find a way of talking while you do the listening.When talking to an abuser, ensure you stay on point and be direct. Have very clear examples of wrong behavior and tell him that his actions or words are unacceptable. Also, do not use accusing words like “You always” Instead, say “Whenever you do this, I feel”This shows him that you are not accusing him of wrong doing and therefore avoids extreme arguments.Be firm with your words but remember to speak respectfully to avoid giving him grounds for counter-accusations.This will usually be helpful at the early stages of the relationship before things have gone very far. Before any long-term commitments, there should be free discussions on anything that affects either party.If already committed, maybe in a marriage and with kids, speaking up is still an option. More than that, it is the first step that you should take in addressing the issue.If you are unable to resolve issues after several attempts, then you can proceed to the next step.Seek counselingSeeking external help is an important part of solving conflicts if the involved parties are unable to do it themselves. Counseling also helps you with recovery from abuse. As an outsider, the counselor will be able to have an objective view of the whole situation and help in pointing out issues.He may also assist in implementing solutions.All the same, when it comes to seeking counseling services as an abuse victim, be wary of some tricks the abuser may try to play. Remember that he does not take responsibility and seeks to be seen as the one who is right.To achieve that, the abuser may try to influence the counselor to see. Though counselors are professionals, the abuser may prefer talking with one who knows him to be a good person. This is just an attempt to influence the counseling outcome.If the counselor however takes an independent approach and is honest, he will be able to detect the wrongs in the relationship and assist accordingly. The amount of experience the counselor has with abuse cases should also play a role in determining his suitability.The best thing to do is ensure that you see an experienced counselor who is unknown to both of you. The counseling session should also be attended by both of you at the same time.This will ensure that you are both on the same page. Another trick abusers employ when appealing to the public is rushing to give information before you get the opportunity to speak. They do this so as to influence those who will be listening and prevent them from believing you.Since you may have suffer ed much emotional and psychological effects due to the verbal abuse, you may also not be able to really prove his wrongdoing. Only experienced counselors may be able to know the signs to look out for.Surround yourself with a support systemOne of the effects of persistent abuse is separation from friends. This happens naturally though for the abuser, it is just part of the plan. Being in a relationship with an abusive partner makes you unable to go out with friends or even socialize.He may have used any method to keep you from friends. Maybe just saying that he doesn’t like your friends for several reasons. Maybe accusing you of cheating. All this is designed to keep you indoors and cut you off from the public.You need to get in touch with some of your trusted friends. Talk to them about your situation and ask them for help. You can plan a visit to their place and just have them encourage you to become stronger.While seeking to re-connect with your friends, keep in mind that the ab user will fight those attempts. You need to prepare for any drama he may cause as he tries to stop you from visiting or talking to anyone.Depending on your exact situation, you will have to exercise some wisdom to get this done relatively smoothly. Since he may deny you the opportunity to visit, you may need to keep it from him at first.This is to prevent him from using tricks like becoming sick the day before your visit, something that could force you to stay.WHAT IF THINGS GET WORSE?It is not rare for a verbally abusive relationship to degenerate into a physically abusive one. Actually, verbal abuse is usually a sign of potential physical danger that may occur later.It is important to consider your stand and beliefs as far as relationships are concerned. But at the end of the day, your safety matters most. You should always prioritize your life over everything else, including property.Any kind of abuse is unacceptable and you deserve to be treated well. Your life is invaluable. If someone does not recognize that and instead works on devaluing and controlling you, then you are better off leaving the relationship.As hard a decision as that may be, you need to look at the long term-effects of staying in the relationship. Look at the time you have been together and reflect on the damage you have suffered. Then think of what could happen if you continued staying.If you have children, you will also have to put that into consideration. You definitely understand the threat they face in the hands and presence of the abuser. Leaving can therefore be the best option for the sake of you and your kids.Here is a list of agencies you can contact for help.CONCLUSIONVerbal abuse is dangerous. Just because it is not physically evident does not mean it should be tolerated. If anything, its effects might prove to be worse than those of some form of physical abuse.Get the help that you need and live a free and productive life.

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A Light to My Path by Lynn Austin parallels the stories of two people, beginning with their realization of slavery. Anna only has vague memories of her parents, of a dream that fades into a nightmare that she can’t remember the end. When she pretends to be a kitten for Missy Claire, the plantation owner’s daughter, Anna is taken into the big house and dubbed Kitty. We will write a custom essay sample on A Light to My Path or any similar topic only for you Order Now Grady has only known life with his mama and playing with Missy Caroline (from A Candle in the Darkness) when he’s sold away from the Fletcher plantation. He serves a slave trader for many years before managing to be gambled away to a kinder owner, Massa Fuller. When Massa Fuller begins calling on Miss Claire, Grady and Kitty’s paths cross. The pretty, naive artist intrigues Grady, but his hatred for anyone white clashes with her subservient attitude. Though Missy Claire treats her like an animal, Kitty is wholly devoted to the only person who’s shown her even the barest scrap of affection. The Civil War begins shortly after their owners marry. Grady sees this as the perfect opportunity for escape, but Kitty is terrified of the idea. Which will win, her love for Grady or her fear? And Grady must choose between his hatred and the Jesus he believed in as a child. Blending breathtaking historical detail with intriguing characters, Lynn Austin crafts a deep tale with important spiritual truths. The Refiner’s Fire series, which can be read in any order, will have the most appeal to women, even for those who don’t prefer books set during the Civil War. Pick up A Light to My Path and prepare for a soulful escape to the past. — Katie Hart, Christian Book Previews. com Book Jacket: This powerful conclusion to Lynn Austin’s REFINER’S FIRE series brings to a close one of the most acclaimed sagas in Christian fiction ever. Each of the first two novels won Christy Awards for Historical Fiction. Now Austin completes her trilogy with a dramatic examination of the Civil War through a slave’s perspective. Riveting, eloquent, and gripping as all of her previous works, it’s the conclusion for which you’ve been waiting. How to cite A Light to My Path, Essay examples

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Question: How will accomplishing these objectives support your success in management? What risks or challenges might a manager encounter if he or she has not mastered these objectives? Explain. Answer: Identifying and describing various strategies that managers perform for better performance of an organization comes under Strategic Management. (MSG, 2014) For every project there is an absolute necessity to set goals and objectives. By accomplishing these objectives one can even ensure the success of the management. This means analyzing what initiatives a business must opt for transforming efforts into workable objectives. Objectives to be mastered by managers are of two types- short term and long term. Short term goals are those which need to be achieved within 6 months to 1 year and long term are those falling beyond a year. (Esmaeli, 2015) A manager who has not mastered these objectives will fall badly. For example - Projects if not completed within time will lead to extra expenditures and resource planning will have to be re sorted. All these may lead to loss on the part of the company delivering the project as well as the client outsourcing the work. Another example of inefficient management is the usual schedules of the company will get disturbed. Suppose, a product is to be launched in a particular festival. Due to poor goal setting the product does not get launched on the date it was supposed to. This signifies the product has lost the expected visibility it was supposed to be fetching if it was launched on the planned date and time. Hence, it is not just a present financial loss, but also a huge potential financial loss as well. Moreover, in competitive markets other products will fill the gap with better objective planning set by efficient managers. ( Anonymous ,2011) References MSG (2014), Strategic Management - Meaning and Important Concepts,Managementstudyguide.com Esmaeilie. N (2015 p.5), Strategic management and its application in modern organizations. Anonymous (2011), The Importance and Value of Organizational Goal Setting

How Effective Were the Guerrilla Tactics of the Viet Cong free essay sample

How effective were the guerrilla tactics of the Viet Cong – History Plan * What tactics the Viet Cong used against US/ARVN troops. * How the Viet Cong dealt with the decisions made by the US troops. * How guerrilla tactics were better than those used by the US troops. * How the environment in Vietnam suited the Viet Cong and how it was a disadvantage for the US troops. * How the surroundings in Vietnam were an advantage to the Viet Cong. The Viet Cong had many tactics which they used against the US and ARVN troops in the Vietnam War, however these tactics were not those that you would expect to be used in a war. The Viet Cong were a Guerrilla army, meaning that the people fighting for them are not proper soldiers. As guerrilla armies don’t have any rules that meant that they could do anything in the war, these tactics were often hit and miss. We will write a custom essay sample on How Effective Were the Guerrilla Tactics of the Viet Cong or any similar topic specifically for you Do Not WasteYour Time HIRE WRITER Only 13.90 / page Whereas the US troops had to follow rules which prevented them from shooting first against the Viet Cong. (http://en. wikipedia. org/wiki/Guerrilla_warfare) The US troops were always used to fighting enemies face to face but the Viet Cong knew that if they did this then they would be beaten, so they dug a series of tunnels, a tactic and a strategy that had never been used before. The tunnels either connected from countryside to key cities or they were used to lead down to hidden bases. These tunnels allowed the Viet Cong to get to the places they wanted without the enemy detecting them. They also allowed them to fight the enemy without them seeing them, leading to the US troops calling them ‘The Invisible Enemy’. This tactic was very successful as many US troops lost their lives without ever seeing the Viet Cong. It was also successful as the Viet Cong could also get to the places they wanted quickly and without having to fight. On the other hand the US troops were searching through the forests in Vietnam and this allowed the Vietcong to use their tactics of ambushing US patrols, setting booby-traps and landmines. The US troops were easy to spot for the Viet Cong as they looked different from the Vietnamese. They also wore a uniform which made them stand out to the Viet Cong. However it wasn’t the same for the US troops trying to spot the Vietcong as the Viet Cong all looked the same as the rest of the Vietnamese people and so the US troops never knew whom they were shooting, leading to many shootings of innocent people dying like the My Lai massacre, where even children were killed. These actions were caused by the frustration of the US troops who were frustrated at losing their comrades; they retaliated by feeling anxious when they went into villages where they knew that they could be killed. These methods were very effective as the booby-traps couldn’t be seen by the opposition and was a quick way of killing the enemy without fighting with them face to face. The tunnels were also effective for the Viet Cong as they could retreat to them when they had just ambushed the US troops. They could also use some of the tunnels to put trap doors and lead them to terrible ways of dying like snakes or poison spikes. A massive advantage for the Viet Cong was that the area in which they were fighting in was mainly in a forest. This helped the Viet Cong as the US could not use their air support to full affect as they could not see the combatants below. The Viet Cong also used the US’ Napalm as an advantage, as when the US alerted their commanders of a sighting of the Viet Cong forces, the Viet Cong would draw the enemies in to the sighting area leading to the US sometimes accidently killing their own forces. One of the main tactics for the Viet Cong was to ambush the troops when they were the most exhausted, like after a long march through the forest. The weather played a huge part in this tactic as the temperatures were very hot, the sort of weather the US troops weren’t used to, unlike the Viet Cong who were used to this weather every day. The heat would’ve made the US Soldiers tired, therefore allowing the Viet Cong to ambush them and the US soldiers would have hardly any energy to fight back. The Viet Cong also thought of backup tactics. These included secure sanctuaries for times when the war might go badly. These were very effective as when the US troops outnumbered the Viet Cong they could retreat to a hiding spot to then launch an ambush. (http://www. pbs. org/battlefieldvietnam/guerrilla/index. html) Also the Viet Cong were made up of people from all around South Vietnam. This made it easier for the Viet Cong to gain trust from people as many of the South Vietnamese people knew at least one person fighting for the Viet Cong. (Edexcel GCSE, History Controlled Assessment, CA5 Vietnam 1960-75). They were also nice to the South Vietnamese people unlike the US troops. With this advantage the Viet Cong used the South Vietnamese people as intelligence spies, to gather information about the enemy US troops without them suspecting a thing. This worked well for the Viet Cong as the US troops wouldn’t be able to recognise any Vietnamese people who were working for the Viet Cong, which meant that the Viet Cong could keep on finding out crucial information about the enemy without needing to capture any opposition fighters. In conclusion, I believe that the guerrilla tactics of the Viet Cong were much superior to those of the US troops as they were more adapted to the Vietnamese environment whereas the US tactics could not be put fully into action, and the fact that the Viet Cong knew their environment more compared to the US was a dominant factor in using tactics and methods to getting to where they wanted to be and how to get there. Bibliography 1) Ambushing US patrols, setting booby traps and landmines, and planting bombs in towns. They mingled in with the peasants, wearing ordinary clothes. The Americans couldnt identify who the enemy was. ) Their tactic was  hanging onto the belts  of the Americans staying so close to the Americans so they could not use air or artillery backup without killing their own men. Source: http://www. bbc. co. uk/schools/gcsebitesize/history/mwh/vietnam/thewarinvietnam rev2. shtml 3) The Vietcong would avoid pitched battles with the Americans unless the odds were clea rly in their favour. There would be more hit and run attacks and ambushes. 4) The Vietcong, following the example of Chinese guerrillas before them, had always given the highest priority to creating safe base areas. They were training grounds, logistics centres and headquarters. They also offered secure sanctuaries for times when the war might go badly. Source: http://www. pbs. org/battlefieldvietnam/guerrilla/index. html 5) Build bases of support among the local population. Avoid open battles with the enemy. Use the local population to gather intelligence about troop movements. Use ambushes, attack at night. Withdraw from fights when outnumbered. (Page 15) 6) Attacked their opponents when they were at their weakest, for example after a long march. Attacked their enemy when they were resting or when they were in camp. They were supplied with weapons and rockets by China and Russia (Page 21) 7) The Vietcong dug themselves tunnels to provide Shelter from bombing and search and destroy missions. (Page 22) Source: Edexcel GCSE, History Controlled Assessment, CA5 Vietnam 1960-75 8) The land is full of marshes, trees, swamps, damp grass, and traps. The Vietcong could be anyone. The Vietcong were camouflaged. Concrete trapdoors, stake traps (poisoned spikes), firing posts, storage for food, weapons and explosives and wells. Sometimes the Vietcong attacked/assaulted the Americans from buildings causing them to fight back. Source: Used my own information 9) Guerrilla warfare is in which a small group of  combatants  including, but not limited to, armed civilians using  military tactics, such as  ambushes,  sabotage,  raids, the element of surprise, and extraordinary  mobility  to dominate a larger and less-mobile traditional  army, or strike a vulnerable target, and withdraw almost immediately. Source: http://en. wikipedia. org/wiki/Guerrilla_warfare http://www. thefinertimes. com/Vietnam-War/15-facts-about-the-vietnam-war. html

Thats Like Me Essays - Cannabis, Herbalism, Medicinal Plants

That's Like Me Essays - Cannabis, Herbalism, Medicinal Plants That's Like Me Throughout history marijuana has been used to serve various purposes in many different cultures. The purposes have changed over time to fit in with the current lifestyles. This pattern is also true in American history. The use of marijuana has adapted to the social climate of the time. Marijuana, whose scientific name is cannibis sativa, was mentioned in historical manuscripts as early as 2700 B. C. in China. (Grolier Electronic Encyclopedia, 1995). The cultivation of the marijuana plant began as far back as the Jamestown settlers, around 1611, who used hemp produced from the marijuana plant's fibers to make rope and canvas. It was also used in making clothing because of it's durability. These uses fit in with the social climate of the time, because the main focus was on survival rather than for psychoactive purposes. During the prohibition, marijuana was widely used because of the scarcity of alcohol. Prohibition was repealed after just thirteen years while the prohibition against marijuana lasted for more than seventy five years. This double standard may have resulted from the wishes of those in power. Alcohol prohibition struck directly at tens of millions of Americans of all ages, including many of societies most powerful members. Marijuana prohibition threatened far fewer Americans, and they had relatively little influence in the districts of power. Only the prohibition of marijuana, which some sixty million Americans have violated since 1965 has come close to approximating the prohibition experience, but marijuana smokers consist mostly of young and relatively powerless Americans (American Heritage, pg 47). Alcohol prohibition was repealed and marijuana prohibition was retained, not because scientists had proved that alcohol was the less dangerous of the various psychoactive drugs, but because of the prejudices and preferences of most Americans (American Heritage, pg 47). In 1937 the government issued the Marijuana Tax Act, which levied a dollar an ounce tax on marijuana, coupled with fines of $2,000 for drug posession and jail sentences for evasion of the tax. For this reason marijuana use in the United States appears to have gone into decline in the late 30's (Grolier Wellness Encyclopedia, pg 54). Then marijuana was outlawed in 1937 as a repressive measure against Mexican workers who crossed the border seekingjobs during the Depression. The specific reason given for the outlawing of the hemp plant was it's supposed violent effect on the degenerate races (Schaffer, pg. 86). Beginning in the 60's marijuana use saw a resurgence which may be attributed to many causes. One of the main causes was the rebellion of youth against the Vietnam War. They used marijuana as an escape from war to peace. It was easy at this time to depict marijuana as a beneficial and completely harmless substance whose effects were far less harmful than those of legal drugs such as alcohol and nicotine because there was not enough scientific research done during the 60's (Grolier Wellness Encyclopedia, pg 54). Another cause may have been the discovery of the psychoactive component of marijuana- tetrahydrocannabinol, commonly known as THC. Users found the relation between the doses and the effects (Grolier Electronic Publishing, 1995). The current atmosphere provides for doctors to suggest synthetic marijuana (THC) in a pure and standardized form by perscription (called Marinol) for the treatment of nausea associated with cancer chemotherapy. Also, although there is no scientific evidence that shows marijuana is beneficial in the treatment of glaucoma, it may prevent the progression of visual loss. Marijuana, along with alcohol and a host of other substances, can actually lower intraocular eye pressure. The mediction however, must be carefully tailored to the individual to prevent further eye damage. The evidence has clearly shown that marijuana has been around for a great deal of time and has served multiple purposes throughout history.